The First Steps To Achieve Self Confidence

Ever thought of what it takes to have self-confidence? Think of people in your environment that have self-confidence. What do they portray? Think of a sales person that has full confidence about the product he sells. How does he come across? A teacher that has self-confidence and confidence in the material he covers and the way he teaches. He KNOWS. He has no doubt about what he is talking about. He has no doubt about how to teach and he already knows what point in the material his students would find difficult to understand therefore before these confusions even arise he takes the time to go over those areas more painstakingly and slowly.

Ever seen a woman that is not quite beautiful but attracts men to her like bees to honey? Ever wonder what it is about her that men would find so attractive and yet the puzzling phenomena of a bombshell that can't get a date? It all comes down to self-confidence.

We are taught at home and at school that we should not praise ourselves; that we should be humble. God forbid if a child says: "I'm the smartest in my class" or "look how beautiful I am" or "How powerful I am".

There is a saying in Hebrew: "The baker should not praise or give testimony about the bread he bakes." I think this saying is a trap. If the baker would not tell me how wonderful the bread he bakes is, and why his bread is tastier and healthier than anybody else's, that baker would starve to death.

If a teacher says that he is the best in his field, you may think he was cocky, you may think he is conceited. Okay. But for a moment you would also think, that if he says so, there must be some truth in his statement and you would at least give it a try and buy a lesson or two to check him out. You would probably choose that teacher over the one who says nothing about his skills and just dryly and humbly tells you how much he charges per lesson.

Think about people in your life that praise themselves, their work and products. Most of them have self-confidence and that self-confidence is backed up by truth. There's nothing wrong in being cocky. There IS something wrong when one becomes too humble, when one doesn't promote himself and his worth with confidence. There is something wrong when one asks permission to breathe or to be the person he wants to be. There is something wrong when you ask people for their opinions when you really don't need them as you already know.

Self-confidence comes first from within you. What you feel inside comes across to the other person. The not-quite-beautiful woman thinks she is the best gift to earth and that men should be thankful that she is willing to date them. And thus it occurs.

Where does self-confidence come from? It comes from YOU! Have you ever heard the expression that you reap what you sow? Well, better believe it. When you keep saying: "I have no self-confidence," "I can't do such-and-such," "I am forgetful," "I never remember," "I'm too shy," etc. you are sowing a lot of things that lower your self-confidence. And guess what? So it becomes!

So as first step to self-confidence: disagree with all those voices in your head that tell you all those negative things. Don't relay those negative statements to others. When you do, you give negativity power and it grows. You catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself? Stop it right then and there. Disagree with it. And if you want to go one step further, say the opposite. The voice in your head says: "You are forgetful," you should say out loud "I have a great memory." The voice in your head says: "You are unattractive" you should say, "look how beautiful I look".

Let's put some more positivity and more self-confidence into the world!

Ruti Yudovich recently released her first successful novel, I Hate to Say Goodbye, based on her early years in Israel and the tragedy that brought her to America. For more information visit at: http://www.ihatetosaygoodbye.com/

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Enlist Your Self Control and Achieve Even More By Anne Bachrach

Self-control is defined as "control of oneself" or the "ability to master one's desires and impulses. Interestingly, self-control is actually perceived in a number of ways. Philosophically speaking self-control could be described as the exertion of one's own will. Psychologically, self-control usually refers to a person?s self-perception, belief system, as well as the ability to set boundaries on their own behavior. Among some scientific communities, the issue seems to be whether or not what we perceive as "normal" (and hence the standard that the person lacking self-control violates) is truly an accurate setting to work with. Most people assume that self-control is healthier than impulsiveness. However, this has to be compared to each person?s value system. For example, some communities may demand stringent behavior as regards sexual morality. Other communities will hold that generosity and pacifism are more important than law. Then some communities will stress that allegiance to a mission is what is truly righteous. Which of the communities has the highest standard of morality?

Knowing what you know about these various communities, how can you determine if a member truly loses self-control and if it?s harmful to their well being? The answer is not a dogmatic one; it?s simply that if the member chooses to adhere to a belief system (or desires to live in only one of the communities) then their level of self-control must be in accordance with the community?s. This way, they feel no personal guilt nor does he offend other members of the community. Now how does this apply in a professional context, specifically, to one individual?

Self-Control for Self Improvement

If you are a self-starting businessperson or have an artistically driven mind, then you may not feel as if you belong to any community. Your concern is not with morals but with success. So how does the concept of self-control fit into this equation? First understand that everyone has a system of belief. Nobody truly believes in nothing; otherwise that person would live entirely on animalistic instinct. All human beings (even the slow ones that repeatedly get ticketed for drunk driving) have logical thought processes. Hence, we all have a system of belief. Before you analyze what self-control means to you, you must first analyze what you believe. You are your own community and you set the guidelines as to what is right or wrong, productive or unproductive.

Let?s say that you have a plan to become successful in your career. This is the mission of your self-contained community. Therefore, any thoughts or actions that run contrary to your mission must be extinguished. This is not to suggest that fascism or communism in real life is right or wrong. After all, when you are discussing government you must take into account the lives of many, as opposed to just one. However, when you are a self-starter, then you are in charge of all your faculties and must have them work for you, not independently of you. Sometimes people do require rigid structure in their life in order to get things done. If you are naturally inclined to take it easy, if you tend to procrastinate, or if you are easily distracted from completing a simple goal, then these are disruptive factors in your community. You must work to maintain self-control to meet the standard that you have set for yourself.

Taking Back Control

If you find that procrastinating slows down your mission, or that watching television alters your set schedule, then you may have to use coercive techniques in order to train your body and mind. Science supports this theory, as even some highly intelligent people have been shown to lack motivation, especially when it comes to certain tasks. If you are a creative type that despises logistical or mathematic work, or a convergent thinker who has trouble thinking outside the box, then this can be challenging to your mission. You may have to exercise self-control, ensuring that you do not drift away to other time-consuming hobbies or even resort to shelving the project indefinitely.

Self-control doesn?t necessarily mean resisting something that is "wrong"; rather, it refers to taking steps to control one?s own tendencies if they are observed to be counterproductive. If you want to learn the quality of self-control, first decide what your mission is and what would be the best way to learn positive qualities. It may help you to slow down your "intake" or "output" (whatever the problem is) rather than to quit suddenly. Don?t underestimate the value of enlisting others to help you. When you are accountable to someone else, it helps. You may have to sacrifice certain things that you enjoy, whether it is time-consuming gadgets, hobbies or types of food and drink. Once you determine to follow your goal through you must make necessary changes. Last but not least, remember to analyze your results and find room for improvement. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small. It is about making progress in life that brings us the success we want and deserve.

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MLM Success Stories-helping Your Team Achieve

Your own mlm success stories can help your team break out of a rut. This rut can be damaging to business operations and happen to businesses around the world. Are you experiencing success on different levels? Now is the time to focus inwards and help your teammates get out of the foxhole and see the sunlight. Giving momentum to your team can help them get the right traction for their businesses. You can prevent failure by spending some of your energy in creating a dynamic movement for your networks.

MLM success stories are vital first aid kits that you can deploy in a time of crisis. If your team is sluggish and lacks the confidence to move out of the foxhole. You need to get them inspired with your story! Sharing your success stories can give them a boost and motivate them to climb out of the ditch. Everyone gets affected by lack of sales and no interest! It is time to bring the dream into reality and help those around you.

Take the time to talk to your networks, find out what problems they are having. Some mlm success stories have the hidden key to unleash them from the problem. You can help resolve these issues, if you can take an hour or two a day with each member and work through it. Resolving problems quickly can make a difference for your team's operation. This means they can refocus and get reenergized to perform their functions accordingly. They may be struggling with some minor issues or have a major meltdown in marketing the business.

How can your mlm success stories help? Each of your stories is different and have its own conclusions. They involve your business and operations within your little framework. There has to be something that has worked that can help your team break free. Like a car, you found success because the engine and drive train were in alignment. Troubleshoot the problems with your team. Hold a meeting take questions and get your hands dirty. Some issues can be fixed quickly and others may require an overhaul. You will need to be a good troubleshooter and understand how to fix complex and simple operations to get it on track with the level of success that they should be having.

David spends his time spanning the globe with extensive travel and enjoying his personal freedom with his lovely wife Ann. With over 20+ years of experience in the NWM profession, David is 100% happy in his daily life, enjoying financial freedom, his love of coaching, animals, family and friends and personal empowerment. David is always welcome to partnerships and learning more about network marketing and personal branding. Visit him at http://www.davidlfeinstein.com/ Rate this Article

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David L Feinstein has published 5 articles. Article submitted on March 19, 2013. Word count: 380

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